Rabbi Eliyahu Hasherik: We have here with us Mr. Tamir Ashman, who is an expert in treatment, especially in the part of men in domestic violence. As I understood from him and as I also understood from the chairman of the committee, the issue of domestic violence - we don't need it to be known for us, because we eat it every day. So the matter is known. bad5cf58d_In its framework, his position is in charge of workshops that lead to the treatment of men who were violent in the family. We want to know what tools he can provide to the courts so that we can use them. you are welcome.

 

Mr. Tamir Ashman:   I have been treating men who have problems of violent behavior at home, in the family for over a decade._cc781 905-5cde-3194-bb3b- 136bad5cf58d_ every week groups of ten men gather  all over the country Conversations about violence, relationships, and love. _cc781905- 5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_In this meeting we will try to understand  How the men get to the group, and I will try to present a little of the process they go through in the group.

The goal in treatment is to improve their behavior, to reduce the violence of the man as well as his partner, to try to lead to peace and harmony in the home, to teach the man how not to hurt the things that are dear to him from every girl The couple and the children.

 The men who come to the group almost never come on their own initiative,  usually the man comes to treatment only after A woman files a complaint with the police. As part of the criminal process, he will be removed from his home, the court will refer him to a probation service. And the probation service will refer the man to one of the domestic violence treatment centers in Israel.

Many of the men in the group admission interview will say  "I am not violent. I am here because of the court. I am here because of my wife. If my wife learns to mend her ways, there will be no violence at home. " Sometimes I read a severe report from the probation officer, which describes the man's behavior at home, the atmosphere of terror, fear and violence. And in the interview I meet Sha Tamim, a man who mainly  feels attacked and betrayed by his wife , and almost never violent, according to his perception of course. Only after three months of working with the man in the group, there is a chance  that the man who said at the beginning of the process: "I'm here because of my wife" . 6bad5cf58d_"I behaved violently at home, I have a problem and I need treatment."

Through the man's point of view,   the blame lies with the woman, she is the one who attacks, does not respect, does not cook, does not wash, does not provide. It scares him to take responsibility for his problems and the situation at home, so he blames her, passes the responsibility to her.

 In therapy I don't look for culprits. What is certain, the state of their relationship and their family are in severe distress, in a deep marital crisis. And the man must start taking responsibility for the situation.

The man experienced his wife's complaint to the police as betrayal. He will experience the complaint as betrayal, his violence, the attack, he will not experience as betrayal. There is a lack of symmetry here. Often after a year of treatment, when a man cooperates with the therapeutic process, he will forgive the woman for the complaint to the police, and will even admit to her that thanks to the complaint, he began to take responsibility for his problems and he began . 

A violent man is a suffering, lonely and depressed man, whose immediate environment is the first to pay a terrible price for this existential suffering. _cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5 cf58d_The treatment helps the man suffer less to feel lonely, and the family is the first to benefit from the change taking place in the man.

No human being in his dialogue in front of the mirror likes to define himself as problematic, as a criminal, as violent. It's a natural process, a human process. The first goal in treatment is to start taking responsibility for the man's behavior at home, without that there is no change.

A glimpse into a men's group enables an observation of Israeli society  with all its problems and all its nuances and wars, all of them are in this small room called 'men's group'. The violence crosses denominations, professions, religions. The group includes high-tech people, doctors, drivers, porters, bus owners, marketing people, members of the security forces, teachers and therapists. Secular, knitted caps, ultra-Orthodox, Arabs and Jews.

in a group 36bad5cf58d_a department manager in a hospital and next to him sits a salesman at the Basta in the Carmel market . What this diverse population has in common is that they are all without exception - men with unique male problems. And everyone came at least once in their lives to a violent attack by their partner.

The woman who goes to the police or to the violence prevention station, or to the rabbinical court, is already desperate, in desperate measures she wants to protect herself from her partner. Before the woman comes to you, she usually  couple therapy, she _cc781905- 5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_tried to talk to him about the shared difficulties.   And what is the typical man   136bad5cf58d_will tell the wife? "No, I need therapy, you need to go to therapy. You need to be taught how to behave with me. If you learn to feed me the way my mother fed me, I will not hit you. If you learn to make my clothes the way I like, I will not attack you. You are a woman destroying." Almost every man in the group will say: "A woman builds, a woman destroys." It's almost as if all the men conspired to say that sentence. And if we go deeper into the sentence, what is the man trying to say  - "I am powerless, I have no ability to influence the relationship, I am led by the power of the woman._cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b- 136bad5cf58d_ Either I'm a victim of unlucky luck and I got a terrible beating that ruins my life, or I'm lucky and I got some woman who lifted me up." _cc78190 5-5cde-3194-bb3b -136bad5cf58d_The corrected and complete sentence that a group of men tries to teach: "Men and women build and destroy their marital and family space". The spouses are both responsible for the quality of their relationship, for the mutual respect. And one of the basic things that men need to learn is to take responsibility for how they affect the marital/family system.

One of the things that is important to know when working with violent men is that from the moment a complaint is filed against a man with the police, in most cases there is no more physical violence. 6bad5cf58d_They don't Need a therapeutic group to stop hitting. The fear of losing freedom sets a limit for a man so clear and strong that most men obey this limit.

  It is possible that if a man gets a very clear boundary from his wife, the first time he attacks her, she will say: "Either you start treatment or I leave." They won't go to the police, and it's likely that the violence will decrease.

 What is important to understand is that the complaint does not stop the violence in the home for a moment, on the contrary, if the man does not start treatment, the violence will get worse. _cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b- 136bad5cf58d_We'll see about her In violence the most hidden from view. After all, physical violence is the tip of an iceberg, a person who gives a slap, a person who pushes, a person who shakes, it stops. 6bad5cf58d_But we'll see about her The emotional violence: curses, insults, insults thunderous silences.

From the moment you deny the man the possibility to attack on a physical level, he will attack more emotionally. There is a concept in therapy that we call 'thundering silence'. Thunderous silence is  punishment of woman's ostracism. The man confiscates her at home. He makes her a social boycott at home.

The problem is when a man behaves emotionally violently,  he doesn't think he has a problem of violence. As far as he is concerned, he is protecting himself. In his experience he protects himself from her aggression.

I want to tell you then about my father, a man in a men's group, received a suspended sentence of one and a half years. Friday is in the synagogue, praying. During the prayer...unfortunately for his wife, he went to the prayer hungry. During the prayer his thoughts begin to bother him, and he says to himself: "I want to come home already, Friday, I worked hard all week, I will come home, I will have dinner with all the family members." _cc781905- 5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_ Is there something wrong with what he thinks? We all have these thoughts.

 But my father didn't notice that he was sowing a seed of calamity that would develop inside him into a violent outburst, and the thoughts keep pecking: "I hope Haya remembers to make me dinner... she knows how much it is It's important to me" and suddenly he entered a mental whirlwind that would last throughout the prayer. And he begins to harp on his thoughts, stabbing her: "How is she doing this to me? What kind of wife have I got? A devil woman. What do I really want?"  His wife, of course, does not know about what is going on inside my father. She doesn't know all this drama. And he, during the prayer begins to feed himself and drive his mind crazy and he becomes all fired up with anger and rage. And as he climbs the stairs of his house, he sees pictures of the dining table not set and no pots on the gas. . It first starts with thoughts. In what is called, we call it in therapy 'negative inner speech'. He enters a system of negativity that actually turns his partner into an enemy and an aggressor. This is a man who, in an interview for the group, will show me a certificate of appreciation from the mayor for his activities in the neighborhood. This is a man who is out there functioning, working, a successful man. No you will see  his eyes have any sign but he turns himself on so strongly in front of his wife. My father is not outside the bounds of sanity. We all do it. What I learned in working with violent men is to go up the stairs slowly and listen to the drama unfolding inside me, because 'the end of the act is the first thought'.

My father is unconscious  At these moments, he is like lethargic. But he sees a picture that the table is empty, and he also sees a picture inside him of how he reacts - cursing, blaspheming. In his mind he knows he has a year and a half probation, so he won't physically attack her, even at the thought stage, but he sees how he breaks the living room and smashes the table he bought for 18 payments._cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b- 136bad5cf58d_My father opens the door. what does he see

He sees an empty table. As an automaton, he loses control, his instinct warms to him, and indeed he does what he planned - he smashes into the house, but he makes sure he doesn't get into trouble with the law. : "Well, I lost control. I saw black in my eyes." I have yet to meet a man who really lost control. Even giving a punch that doesn't leave a mark requires self-control. Smash all the things in the house, but he will leave the TV intact to watch 'Matt Sport'. He won't break the trophies he won in handball, but he will smash the things that are important to her. There is control here.

It is important to teach them not to say "I lost control, I was a leaf blowing in the wind". My father went berserk. Erupted though not raised a hand. His wife leaves the room in a panic and then he also starts cursing and cursing her, his wife does not understand. Later it turns out that she took care of her two children who were sick with the flu, with vomiting, she was constantly busy and working and he didn't see it, this man. And of course I present him as a symbol, What happened to my father? He was 'self-centered'. You can call it selfishness. In this sense his wife was a servant, an object, which is supposed  to provide him with the Fantasies, his desires. This is not love. My father must be taught to love. It will take time for my father to even understand the deep spiritual meaning behind the word love.

My father may love his wife but he doesn't know what love is. My father gets confused between possessiveness and love, between deep friendship and brotherhood and everything we want a relationship to be.

Many men are embarrassed and wrong and don't know how to deal within this marital and family space. "How do you communicate with this thing that I live with in a 70 meter square?" They do not know. And perhaps, as in the past, we need to create institutions that guide women and men on how to live together in the twenty-first century. How to create an equal, accepting, and respectful dialogue.

So and so years ago, a shelter was opened for battered women of the ultra-Orthodox community. Today another shelter was opened because the number of women who turn to it is very large. I am telling this because  violence is cross-cultural, and this is something that is important to understand if it is only a problem of the secular community. And this is a disease that this entire culture is infected with, and we need to take responsibility for it and address this social problem in all its layers.

What happens in a group? They tell about what goes through them during the week: "I stumbled here". I call it 'week-by-week mental calculation'. I always tell them: "You don't have to wait for Yom Kippur to take stock." Every week we take stock, and I invite them to look at all the events that happened between the man and the woman. And the man tells them, and we learn.  I do not judge them for their stumbling. On the contrary, I congratulate them for bringing the stumbling blocks. If you are afraid to learn from your mistakes, you are likely to repeat them. The group is a space not of a court.

The group serves as a kind of school for learning about the emotion of anger. 3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_What men who come to therapy have in common, that they have turned their emotions_cc781905 -5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_ The anger to destroy. _cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d _Do you know what damage is caused to children who see violence at home?,_cc781905-5cde-3194 -bb3b-136bad5cf58d_  What happens to a child when he sees father hitting mother? How will he even be free to attend school? How will he even be free for anything?

They did a study in England, and put children who saw violence at home in CT, in a brain scan, and put a research group of children who were not exposed to violence and found out that children who saw violence at home, there is evidence in  CT_cc7819 05 -5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_in their brains, that there is physiological evidence of  this experience of seeing father hit mother, there are physical scars in the structure.

Let's try to understand what will happen to a couple who does not come to treatment.  I will describe to you the first year of a man and a woman after they get married, we call it "the cycle of violence"._cc781905-5cde- 3194-bb3b-136Bad5cf58D_ called Raz and called container, _ CC781905-5cde-3194-bb3B-136Bad5c58D_ Raz and container below the canopy wanted the same thing, _ cc781905-5194-BB3B3B1-11-11-11-1-1-1-11144 Heart goddess has no differences. They wanted to achieve a good, happy life, peace, tranquility, shepherding, friendship. This one,_cc781905-5cde- 3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_ Even sometimes already on the honeymoon the violent outburst will occur. In many cases this happens already in the first stage of pregnancy when the woman's belly grows. That's where the first eruption occurs. The outburst can occur around the family meal that the wife cooks for the man, and he is very unhappy with her dishes and then he loses control. This can happen because a woman again forgot to turn off the hot water boiler, about an inappropriate outfit the woman wore, or something she said out of place. bb3b-136bad5cf58d_

Raz, at the age of 24 he got married, at the age of 36 he joined the group after his wife filed a police complaint against him. I want to start the circuit at the voltage generation stage. Every day Raz comes home from work, full of expectations about how the house should be run. Raz, he has a very clear idea of how this house should be run. He doesn't know how to talk about it with his partner, but he knows what needs to happen, he knows that the sink needs to be emptied, and the woman is responsible for emptying the sink. He knows who should do laundry, he knows who should educate the children, he knows what his role is, and he holds these roles very rigidly. Every such moment inside the house is prone to disaster. But he doesn't really know how to talk about what he's going through. So he is angry. Instead of saying: "I expect, and I'm disappointed", he just stays angry and stuffs the anger inside his body,  One of the things that Raz needs to be taught is to regulate this emotion, no hold it in the stomach. Anger is such a strong energy that it consumes the body if the man holds it inside. You have to learn to release this emotion, God forbid, without attacking, without hurting a person, without burning him.

But Raz, in the first months he is constantly disappointed. He will tell the group  "You know, I come back from work... the way I come back from work, I open the door, I want to go back to work"._cc781905-5cde-3194 -bb3b-136bad5cf58d_Think how sad this sentence is. This man who arrives home, instead of going to the safest kingdom for him, he wants to return to his workplace. And he is not to blame, and she is not to blame. Teach her how to communicate with him, and teach him how to communicate with her.

In the group, Raz will learn how to recognize that he is a little angry,  and how to communicate his feelings, his needs, his expectations to his wife in a way that he can be listened to, in such a way that Raz can create understanding with his wife Men in the group learn about the subtle emotions behind anger. Because every moment we are angry we feel disdain, we feel disappointment, we feel powerless, we were offended, we felt rejected. We need to go back and teach the men, teach them back to speak their feelings. The great goal of working with men is to return to learning to talk about feelings. 5-5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_at age 4, at the age of 5, when a child cried, offended, they told him "You're a man, get over yourself. Get over it. Control it. You're acting like your sister". -bb3b-136bad5cf58d_And the men as children learned that in order to survive in the home, that in order to be accepted in the home they need to know not to speak these delicate feelings of sadness, of insult, because it is considered feminine. , typical, at the age of 12 he already lost his ability to speak his feelings. One of the most cruel ages for children is ages 7 to 9. If the boy is still connected to his feelings, and communicates them with the environment, the boy will experience further violence from his peers, and they will try to make him a man, he will often be rejected by the members of his group, his class, when their goal is to return him to the emotionally limited range of male behavior. To turn him into a boy who knows how to play the game of poker while hiding his feelings.

There is no problem with the poker game, but when a man plays poker with his wife, he creates alienation, alienation, distance and tension. .

So Raz, like most men, keeps it inside. He gets angry, and he is angry and he is disappointed, but everything stays inside. In fact, the house at these moments is like a room full of gas. There is tension, there is alienation. What I didn't tell you is that Rez is in a risk group to be violent, first of all because he is a man, another thing, he saw violence at home as a child. When I say that he saw violence in the home it does not mean that he saw father beating mother, it means that he absorbed a climate of extreme disrespect and impatience between father and mother. He saw father dismissively silence  mother while she spoke. There are many ways for a child to absorb violence, but it starts from a lack of respect and impatience between the couple. When he saw his father treat his mother  as property, as a being that came to provide and not something that should also be served out of a place of holiness, he consumed violence.

Every day that passes, Raz continues to accumulate tension and withdraw, Raz begins to sting, react with sarcasm, first outbursts of verbal violence, which will turn into violence against property, he leaves the house and returns the next day,_cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b -136bad5cf58d_ In the end there will be a very small incident - for example the food turned out a bit bland. Then she has her first physical outburst. It's like a spark, and this gas-filled room ignites in a second. Raz made a promise to himself that he would not continue in his father's footsteps. , and loses control and gives a slap and a push towards Michal. And for the first time, after three months, after the canopy, after this very emotional situation, she experiences her first physical attack, and naturally she is frightened, she cries in the living room. What is happening to Raz? Raz looks at his crying wife and relaxes, his mental tension released. A man once told me: "It's like silence after an attack." The unfortunately common mistake that Raz's wife Michal   will make, if she wants the man after the outbreak And go and learn to make him the dishes he likes, or Change the clothes she was wearing, or stop being in contact with a girl he disapproves of. If she lectures him after her assault,  she thereby reinforces and rewards his violence. The last thing Rez needs after the outbreak is an accepting, patient attitude. Mentally, what Rez really needs more than anything is a clear and unequivocal boundary. Kesha  that if he does not start treatment there is no future for the relationship.

A patient who was addicted to heroin said  "The first outbreak _cc781905-5cde- 3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_reminded me of injecting heroin, because suddenly there was silence inside me . I relaxed." The enormous tension that this man accumulated and did not know how to release through healthy means of normal and non-violent communication, he discovers that it creates mental relaxation. stress release. Anyone who raises children knows how liberating it is sometimes to aggressively vent anger. But as destructive as it is, we also know that.

So Raz calmed down. This is the first thing that will make him addicted to this drug called violence. After the eruption Raz   manages to breathe fresher air for a moment, less compressed air that has a lot of loneliness and tension. And what happens next?  He has real remorse. Some people will say: "He is lying to her, how can she believe him?" . But Raz really regrets,  he sees his wife crying, folded and frightened, he can't believe what he did. This is a very sad moment in their relationship. 194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d__cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b -136bad5cf58d_When is an Israeli man allowed to cry?, and they found that the man allows himself to cry at funerals, and at the birth of his children. These are two social situations in which a man is allowed to release mental tension through crying. But what this study didn't say is that men also cry after the first time he assaults their wives. And the sorrow is real, but the sorrow also addicts him, because suddenly he discovered some kind of technique to connect with his feelings. Think how effective it is in the destructive sense: I built up tension, I hit her, I relaxed. I connected with the feelings. And the relationship, what happens later between Raz and Michal, when suddenly   he feels he is losing her. He suddenly has to return and make her his. And he will stop for a certain period of time treating her as a matter of course as property, as an object. Then their relationship will enter a period called 'honeymoon' - three, four months   a woman in a shelter for battered women said me_cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b -136bad5cf58d_ - She showed me the jewelry on  her hands: " You see? This is the eruption of '85. This ring of_cc781905-5cde -3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_  the eruption of 1987_cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d _ '. This chain is from 2003." She was all witnesses and jewels, witnesses to all the cruel outbursts of her partner.

But what this means is that one of the things that keep men and women together is this period called 'honeymoon'. The relationship flourishes: they go out, hang out, hope is created for her. Suddenly the man feels less cheated in this deal called 'relationship'. But the story is that Raz didn't actually learn anything. He didn't learn how to communicate his feelings in a non violent way, he didn't learn how not to build up tension, and the problems actually didn't get resolved  5cf58d_ between them. Still the sink gets filled, still the floor, still the children's education. All the natural things that create tension within a family have not been resolved. He doesn't know how to release it in a non-violent way. And then the circle enters another round.

The next round, if in the first year there was one violent outbreak, in the second year we will see two outbreaks, three outbreaks. And every outburst deeply hurts the delicate soul of his wife, but no less than the whole soul of the man is getting hurt. Every outburst of the man in his wife darkens, makes his skin thicker. And makes the woman's skin more painful. And they enter into a relationship that, in the end, if this man is not treated immediately, we are talking here about an addiction that will be very difficult to treat, because we are talking here about the accumulation of tension, outbursts, relaxation, without the moral parts. Without the regret and compensation parts. We will reach a situation where if a violent man is not treated, it will become a day-to-day  treatment of an hour and a half a week, which I propose, will no longer be effective. He will need a framework called 'Beit Noam', which is a closed framework of a day-to-day group, and it is not certain that it will help him either. Because where a soul hurts a soul, it loses something. She loses part of her humanity.   Even if you think the woman is just plotting. I'm sure she has very real distress. What Rez will experience in the therapeutic group  is a supportive framework. A framework in which he learns to share his difficulties. A framework in which he learns to communicate his feelings. One of the exciting things that happens within a group of men, that the crying becomes legitimate.

I don't know what your relationship is with crying, I want to tell you that it is a blessing for the soul when a man cries his marital crisis, and tears fall from his eyes from pain, there is hope there. In these moments when tears fall, he feels the crisis and he does not transmit some kind of pose that "everything is fine". "Go to therapy", this is no longer the place for "go to therapy".

But things are more complex than how I present them at the moment.  Man, after three months in therapy he became very angry with me. He says: "Tamir, I'm angry with you." I asked him: "Why are you angry with me?". "You teach us nonsense" he said. And he is angry real anger. "Why am I teaching you nonsense?" "I   understood what you were saying that I should communicate my feelings at home. And I came home, and if ever I would shout and sew I came and said: My wife, I feel like you underestimated me yesterday. And you know what my wife told me? 'Is that what Tamir teaches you in the group? He turns you into a nerd.'" A change within a system that is historically built from perceptions of acceptable behaviors for men and women. The woman wants a man who will give her security. But what needs to be taught to the woman 'that a man feels' is still the security provider, on the contrary, it provides you much more security. A man who speaks his feelings is a much more affluent and flexible man emotionally and mentally. After all, in the 'parable of the tree', what is broken? A thick stem breaks in a second, but a delicate stem cannot be broken. A man who knows how to talk his feelings at home is a man who will be flexible. 'Flexible joints' I happen to it. He won't break so quickly and get out of balance.

The therapeutic model  that the man goes to the circle of men and the woman goes to the circle of women. In the women's circle they will teach her about what the man learns in the group:   

In the beginning they are bad5cf58d_separately, _cc781905-5cde-3194-bb3b -136bad5cf58d_And they are getting stronger. And again, in the model I believe in, it is important to introduce the spirit, the sanctity of the family. Because without it, it's emptiness and loneliness. It's important to teach them what friendship is, what evil is, what communication is, what love is between a man and a woman. The couple will move to a phase of couples therapy.

It is important to mention that most men do not seek treatment on their own initiative, they need the help of an authority above them in order for them to start a treatment process.

Cooperation of the legal system is necessary. When Judge O Dayan writes in the ruling to refer the man for diagnosis and treatment at the violence prevention center in the man's residential area, the man will come for treatment. Most violent men are people who fear the law, they don't want to lose their freedom. I have no problem as a therapist that at the beginning it will be outwardly to show better to the court that it will be out of legal interest. 3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_internal. From the outside it will turn into the inside. to the Center for the Prevention of Violence. They must undergo a professional diagnosis in the field. 194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_to refer a woman who complains about violence_cc781905- 5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_ to a center that specializes in this field. This is a very big mission in my opinion.

If there is suspicion of violence, send them for diagnosis in a center for violence. She and he will be in the group for three months, you will receive an opinion from the therapist - if there is a problem of violence, does he take responsibility, does he not take responsibility.

 There is nothing to lose, there is only something to gain from three months like this.

The most significant thing that I would like to have conveyed in this meeting, that the tip of the iceberg is physical violence. This is the easiest to solve. The scourge of violence is emotional violence, it is the man who humiliates, it is the man who is silent, it is the man who loses control and criticizes his wife from head to toe, a woman who says: "I am humiliated by him", this is a man who should be referred to a center for the prevention of violence.

One of the concerns of men in therapy: "Wait, if I join the group, a court will say that I am violent". It does mean that there is a problem at home, in the relationship, there is a break in the relationship, that is for sure. 1905-5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_I have to say , no man wants to be called a 'violent man' either. I don't call them 'violent men'. I want to tell you that they are human, like me and you. These are human beings who suffer. A violent man at home is a suffering man. His wife is suffering. I'm not looking for the culprits right now. There is suffering in the man, this man needs help, the less he is in distress the less violent he will be, the more his self-confidence increases the less violent he will be, the more he learns to speak his feelings and expectations the less violent he will be, the more he learns about relationships Equality, on a more flexible division of duties at home, he will be less violent. The more he questions his perceptions, and learns to be governed less by his masculinity and self-pride, the less violent he will be. bb3b-136bad5cf58d_at the meeting, that the violence  is a very addictive pattern of behavior, if the man does not start a process of treatment and rehab his violence Get worse, relationships_cc781905 -5cde-3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_ will be destroyed and the children in the family will be exposed to the dangerous radiation of the violent behavior, and they themselves will be at risk of becoming the next generation of violent men. And for all of us, everyone sitting in this hall has a very important role to play in treating this social disease. We have a heavy responsibility. when we meet 136bad5cf58d_who report violence, simply compel them to contact the violence prevention center in their area of residence. And if they start treatment, there is hope that there can be an improvement in the situation.

  I want to thank you very much for listening and for your curiosity.